Deepen Your Connection as a Couple

For many couples deeply in love, they find that love is not enough. Over time the novelty that’s there in the beginning of the relationship begins to fade, as people get more familiar with one another and the chemicals begin to wear off. At that stage, couples can find themselves really stuck in a power struggle.

In a country where 50% of all marriages end in divorce, we know that some people just give up in a desperate frustration. A lot of those marriages could be saved! They could be saved simply by knowing where to get the skills and the tools they need to climb out of that power struggle and find a more mature and deeper love.

I think of it this way. Between any two people there is a space and that space is their relational space. If couples are unconscious they begin to pollute that space. The pollution consists of things like criticism, contempt, frustration, anger, resentment, and stonewalling (which is all about not wanting to talk at all). When that pollution occurs, the space between gets to be a pretty uncomfortable place to live. In fact, people may turn away from each other and look for comfort outside the relationship.

I help couples to really clean out that pollution and begin to sanctify the space. When we begin to make it sacred we consciously put good things in there, like love and appreciation, understanding, curiosity about our partner, and acceptance. When we do that, we want to be together. We want to spend more time together and to build something amazing. And if there are children involved, the children get to grow up in the healthy, beautiful, sanctified space between their parents. In this way, we are giving future generations a place to grow and thrive and maybe even do it better than we have ever done it before. So marriage is a higher calling.

It’s not just about making two people happy. It’s really about saving the planet, one couple at a time.

Where to start? Download the Relationship Health Assessment and get a sense of where to focus next in deepening your relationship as a couple.