Why Do We Fight Even Though We Love Each Other?
Why are we fighting is a question that couples ask me in therapy. Of course, they also want to learn how to stop fighting, but this question of why remains a pesky one.
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Mothers: It’s All Relative
In May we celebrate Mothers Day. The word Mother seems to me much more complicated than the above definition that I found in the dictionary. I am a woman in relation to my children and also to my stepchildren… But there’s more.
How to Remove Criticism to Improve Your Most Important Relationship
Common advice is to eliminate negativity in communication. This is a hard thing to do, but is vitally important. Let’s take a look at why it’s essential to remove criticism and what to do instead.
Is Your Marriage Marginal at Best?
Last week, I had the privilege of being interviewed by a reporter from the Santa Barbara News Press about my Weekend Couples Retreats. One reader wrote in some comments to the Editor. I want to share what he wrote and my response to him. You may be wondering about some of the same things. He […]
What are you thinking about in 2019?
What you are thinking about can influence your availability bias. My resolutions for 2019 help to combat that by staying mindful to what’s right with life.
What Does Your Halloween Costume Say About You?
Halloween is my favorite holiday. I love dressing up in costume and seeing how everyone else dresses up. What is it about this activity that we find so enticing?
The 6 Best Pieces of Marriage Advice to Write in a Card
For when merely signing your name feels all wrong, here are six best pieces of marriage advice to write in the wedding card.
Separation–Could it Save Your Marriage?
Perhaps the love and connection between you and your spouse feels dead. Maybe you can’t stop the fighting. A separation might feel like the only way to save yourselves.
How Can You Tell if Your Loved One Might Be at Risk for Suicide?
While we cannot really predict a suicide attempt, there are sometimes factors and signs to look for.
How Can you Tell if Your Couples Therapy is Helping?
There are so many therapists to choose from! At last, you pick someone, drag yourself and your partner to the office and get started.
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