As a Marriage Therapist, couples come to see me with a wide array of goals. Generally, they want to resolve their conflicts, stop fighting, get better connected, and well…be happier! I don’t have a Happiness Magic Wand, but I have gathered some information about how to help over the years. Below are seven components that […]
It’s a familiar situation. A couple arrives at my office for an appointment. As a licensed Marriage Therapist, I prepare myself to hear how I might help them. They explain that they’ve been married for a number of years and have three young children, but have been separated for some time after an affair. They […]
Often, people ask if I can help them with learning how to have a healthy relationship. I started thinking about this request and what it really means to deliver the proper relationship advice for it. What are the elements of a healthy relationship, exactly? Two of my colleagues in Interpersonal Neurobiology, David Rock and Daniel […]
Committing yourself to another person isn’t something that should be taken lightly. After the excitement of your proposal, but before your wedding day, it’s essential for you and your fiancé to sit down together and discuss some important topics. Doing so will help to ensure your relationship is as strong as possible before saying “I […]
As a Marriage Therapist I see a lot of frustrated wives. I’ve noticed that women initiate Couples Therapy more than men. If their husbands are acting like children, these women tend to be angry, hurt, and resentful. They want him to grow up, or else! We also know that women initiate divorce more often than […]
Recently, each day when I sit down to write a new blog, I end up feeling empty, exhausted, and uninspired. In the past, I’ve been energetic, enthusiastic, and full of ideas. I find myself wondering if there’s something wrong with me. What has changed? Am I depressed? As a Mental Health Professional for over 30 […]
Do you know about the Five Languages of Love? In 1992, Gary Chapman wrote a book by that title. It sold 8,500 copies in its first year, roughly twice the expected number. It has been on the New York Times Best Seller list since 2009. A newly revised edition was released in 2015. Dr. Chapman […]
Were you a rambunctious kid growing up? I know at times I certainly was. I can clearly remember those moments when my parents would send me to my room for a time-out to calm down and reflect on my behavior. I wasn’t allowed to see any of my friends or go out to play. I […]
Exploring the Link Between Positive Mental Health and Happy Relationships May is National Mental Health Awareness Month. Often, when people think about mental health, they tend to focus solely on mental illness. Mental health does, of course, include anxiety, depression and other diagnoses — but it encompasses much more than that. Positive factors, such as […]
After you get engaged, there is this period of combined bliss and stress while in the midst of planning for your wedding day. However, the light at the end of the tunnel is that those emotions are followed by the romance and relaxation of your honeymoon. During this time when you’re freshly married and enjoying […]
